When our philanthropic acts were spontaneous and called upon personal strengths, the whole day went better. The afterglow of the “pleasurable” activity (hanging out with friends, or watching a movie, or eating a hot fudge sundae) paled in comparison with the effects of the kind action. “After a heated dispute, we each undertook an assignment for the next class: to engage in one pleasurable activity and one philanthropic activity, and write about both.
LEARNED OPTIMISM MARTIN HOW TO
Learned Optimism: How to Change Your Mind and Your Life Once you get into the habit of disputing negative beliefs, your daily life will run much better, and you will feel much happier.”
Unlike dieting, learned optimism is easy to maintain once you start. But usually your negative beliefs are distortions. Sometimes the beliefs will turn out to be accurate when this is so, concentrate on the ways you can alter the situation and prevent adversity from becoming disaster. Anytime you find yourself down or anxious or angry, ask what you are saying to yourself. Practice disputing your automatic interpretations all the time from now on. The main tool for changing your interpretations of adversity is disputation.
This means that if you change your mental response to adversity, you can cope with setbacks much better. Rather they issue directly from your beliefs about adversity. Emotions and actions do not usually follow adversity directly. You first saw the ABC link-that specific beliefs lead to dejection and passivity. “YOU SHOULD NOW be well on your way to using disputation, the prime technique for learned optimism, in your daily life.
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